Research_Methods_-_Distributions_in_AllPsych_OnlineOne of the hardest things about running for public office is dealing with partisanship, no matter what party you identify with politically. There are “fundamentalists” on each side of the political spectrum.  The truth, however, is that most of us cluster in the reasonable middle ground, in a normal distribution or “Bell shaped curve” where 68% of folks are pretty much in the middle, and 95% of us are within a standard deviation from that middle ground.

The problem is that online, and on Facebook, I often see outrageous things posted to try to gin up interest and outrage.  Just like any other marketing campaign, folks are trying to create emergencies, indignation, and other emotional reactions that will prompt people to take some action.  So while a typical marketing pitch for retail goods might be “Big Sale!  Limited Time and Quantities!  Get Yours Today!!!”,  in politics, you’ll get emails saying “Look what the other side did now!  We’re being outgunned!  Give Today!” or other such things, often demonizing the other side.

The more extreme partisans are trying to “Wake the rest of us up” and get us involved. However, I don’t think this constant barrage of outrage and vitriol is healthy for anyone.  We all know that in order to get someone “engaged” we have to deliver a message that’s worth their attention, and that hopefully persuades them to our point of view.  But ginning up all these largely negative emotions isn’t healthy for our physical or mental health.  Not everything is actually an emergency.  We don’t need a flight or fight response for every little issue in our lives.  It’s exhausting.  And sooner or later, the faux emergency messages will start to get ignored, just like the story of the Boy Who Cried Wolf.  Then, when help is truly needed, when a real emergency does exist, no one will pay attention, because there will be no reason to believe that this time, the emergency is real.

I understand this process.   One one side, I have to get people to care enough about my campaign to help me knock doors and meet as many voters as possible between now and November.  It means getting name recognition, having people put up signs and the like- trying to get people to care, at least a little, about the upcoming election, months before it actually occurs.  And then, closer to the election, we have to hope that the folks we met still care enough to go out and vote in November.  I would like to do this by persuading them that I consider the opportunity to run for office an honor, and that the job itself involves a sacred trust- a fiduciary responsibility to each and every person in the District, whether they vote or not, to do what’s best for our community.

Or, on the other side, we could create all sorts of smaller, calls to action to make people think it’s an emergency.  Every fundraising call, every voter contact creates a decision point, critical to their lives.   Now, I wouldn’t be running for office if I didn’t believe the people we elect and their points of view have consequences.  But I’m not sure that the election has the same amount of immediate seriousness each and every day, equivalent to a car crash, with critically injured people who need attention RIGHT THIS MINUTE.  The election is very important very important but no one will bleed to death today if you fail to vote in November.  The level of importance and criticalness is different.

Getting People to Care

I want people to care.  I want people to vote for me.  But I also want them to see me as a level headed person who understands the difference between Important and Critical; who understands priorities, and making well reasoned and rational decisions.  We don’t need reactionary leadership playing a giant game of Whack-a-mole- we need steady hands, that are taking care of today’s concerns while planning ahead for the future as well.  Just like in business- this quarter’s results are important, but the long term health and sustainability of the business is just as important.  You can’t burn the house down today just to make this month’s numbers, because there will be nothing left next month to work for.

Passion is important.  Engagement and caring are equally important.  I understand engaging people at the gut level works.  But I also want you to know that when I tell you something, it’s the truth and you can trust that information implicitly.

I have spent my life building a reputation for being honest and telling the truth, and I can’t change that, now or ever, because that’s who I am.  I will not compromise my personal integrity for the sake of telling someone what they want to hear, rather than the truth.

Adults deserve to be treated like adults and hear the truth, even if it’s unpleasant.  Like the old cliche phrase goes, anyone who only tells you what they think you want to hear is likely selling you something.  I do want your trust and your vote, and I need to earn that through honesty and integrity.  It may sound old fashioned, or even idealistic.  Maybe it is.  I was raised to believe that our reputation precedes us, and doing the right thing, especially when it’s hard, is more important than any temporary gain or inconvenience you might get out of a lie.

I believe that most of us live our lives in the center of the normal distribution.  We go about our daily lives, until we are interrupted by something that’s upsetting, or violates our sense of fair play and justice.  This pulls us to the extreme.  But we can’t live on the extreme end of things, upset by everything that comes our way.  It’s exhausting, and often leads to people simply deciding to tune the whole nonsense out, which explains why there has been historically low voter turn out recently.

Partisanship is about choosing up sides.  However, governing is about doing what’s best for all of us.  I think the folks we elect to office have to remember we’re all supposed to be on the same team here, pulling for the whole community, the whole State, the whole Country.  We will disagree on what’s best, but as long as we put the needs of the community first, we’ll make much more progress than putting the wants of the extreme into the center of the debate.


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Sometimes, the Old Way is Better

I love technology.  I love the internet.  It makes so much of what I do faster and easier.  However, when it goes down and is not working, I realize that the “old fashioned” way has its appeal, especially in its ability to have a bit of redundance built into the system.

My morning has been an exercise in frustration.  Last week, I visited the doctor with my son on Monday.  I pulled my insurance information up for the Nurse on Lifelock, an app that lets you keep all those plastic cards in your wallet organized and available on your phone, under a secure password.  On Wednesday, when we went for a quick test, and Lifelock was down.  I hadn’t gotten the notice that Lifelock has deleted its app and everybody’s information in order to upgrade things and make sure the system is 100% secure.  While I appreciate their absolute devotion to data integrity, it has been frustrating not knowing why I have had all my data I spent hours putting into my phone disappear without a big Heads up, or a way to download all that data, since some of those cards we threw out, since we didn’t need them, with all of our data safely preserved on our phones… Sigh….

So, as part of the process of now reconstructing all that information (I would love to have a list of what I put in there so I know whose cards I need to find….) I needed to call our health insurance company to get a new copy of our health insurance card.  I tried to get in online, but I could not register for an account.  So I called the company, and they informed me their systems were down and I could call again in two hours.  I asked if that’s why I couldn’t login online, they said call back in two hours.  I asked if I could talk to someone about a new card, they said call back in two hours.  Without computers working, I essentially can’t see a doctor, because I can’t get my health insurance card, because the computers at the health insurance company are currently down.

IMG_3509I dug through our desk drawers and began to fish out all the loyalty cards, ID cards, membership cards, etc we have accumulated through the years.  I have a three and a half inch pile.  Carrying around this pile of plastic has seemed silly for quite some time, so going to an app based process seemed like a godsend, plus my husband and I could easily do this once, and have mirror images of all our cards, ending the common refrain of “Who has the card for Longwood again?” and the debate that would ensue thereafter, along with the manic search before we could leave the house.

Some of these stores/businesses/club/membership places will accept my phone number as ID in lieu of the card, others will not.  Sure, I know not everything is super duper secure on a phone, so I did not trust information like my credit cards there, but I sure as heck used it for things like grocery loyalty cards, movie discount cards, and health insurance- the information you have to have, but can’t seem to find right when you need it most.  And now, it’s all gone.  I lost the work that went into making the system work, and now I have to reconstruct it all somewhere else, reminding me of the painful times spent trying to reinstall Windows on a PC with no less than 23 floppy disks, that took hours to accomplish.

Yes. this is a first world problem.  But it also makes me wonder as we rely more and more on the cloud, are we really getting rid of the redundancies that we need that made life work, that created that “backup” system?  Even keeping the stack of cards my husband thought was silly and I know he tossed some and shredded some, thinking we had it all on our phones, so the “hard copy” was just silly and took up space.  Likewise, he’s been after me to throw out the old CD’s we have, saying we have ripped them all onto the computer, so there should be no reason to hold on to them.  But I’m starting to get that sinking feeling that while half of my life is digital, the rest is going to be made up of little bits and pieces that create the “hard copy” version of my life, that you never know if you will need.

(You can go back and read the experience we had in January when we had a five day power outage and no access to digital records we needed for our pets as yet another example of needing a few hard copies in our lives- I won’t bore you with that tale again here.)

The convenience of online records in incredible.  It lets us do so much more, so much faster.  But there are ever increasing vulnerabilities to this information and data as well, making the system fragile, and vulnerable to unexpected attacks, delays, and failures.  We think we’re saving money, reducing waste, saving trees, reducing the issues with ink, and more- but I think we sometimes fail to consider whether or not we are also increasing our dependence on systems that have their own fragility, we often fail to fully acknowledge.


The Biggest Day So Far

Primary SelfieYesterday was Primary Day in Pennsylvania, and as a first time candidate, it was a great opportunity to go to every single polling place in the District, meet the volunteers, and talk with folks on both sides about what’s important to them.  It was the best way to get a visceral sense of every area in my District, on the ground, in person.  More on that below, but first, the best thing that happened yesterday by far:

US District Court Judge John E. Jones III in Pennsylvania declared the Commonwealth’s ban on gay marriage unconstitutional, and marriage licenses have already been issued. (you can read the full text of the decision here.)  The Corbett administration has 30 days to appeal the decision, and I hope they will see the wisdom in the Judge’s decision and let the ruling stand.  Here is an excerpt from the opinion:

We are a better people than what these laws represent, and it is time to discard them onto the ash heap of history.  By virtue of this ruling, same-sex couples who seek to marry in Pennsylvania may do so, and already married same-sex couples will be recognized as such in the Commonwealth.”

When Pennsylvania amended its laws back in 1996 to prohibit same sex marriage, and its overwhelming passage by both chambers, I thought it was an embarrassment.  Why would a State, known as the cradle of liberty, where the Declaration of Independence and Constitution were signed, want to become the home of intolerance and injustice?

When I was growing up, our family had many friends, including a number of same sex couples.  I grew up knowing that these families were exactly the same as my own- full of people who loved each other and were committed to each other, just like my own more traditional family.  We grew up believing that while some people viewed these relationships through a religious lens as lesser or immoral, everything in our experience showed otherwise. There were actually more divorces, drama, and relationship upheavals with traditional heterosexual couples than in many of the same sex couples we knew.

I was thrilled to be endorsed by Equality PA recently, and to be able to share my views with them.  This is an issue that has made Pennsylvania look petty and backwards, and yesterday, we took a huge step forwards towards making the American dream of freedom and equality for everyone under the law a reality.  Let’s hope the Corbett administration will understand this, and I will make altering the letter of the 1996 law a first priority, if the legislature has not already acted before the election.

Back to The Primary:

First thing after I voted in the morning, I stopped by a local WaWa to get gas and a soda before hitting the polling places.  I reminded the clerks and people in the store to vote- many of them had forgotten it was Primary Day and some said they never bothered to vote.  That’s when I turn to the Great Molly Ivins for inspiration.  Here is a quote from one of her books, that I’ve slightly modified to reflect PA rather than Texas:

When did politics become about them- those people in DC or in [Harrisburg]- instead of about us?  We own it, we run it; we tell them what to do; it’s our country, not theirs.  They are just the people we hired to drive the bus for a while. …

I hear people say “I’m just not interested in politics” “Oh, they’re all crooks , anyway.” or “There’s nothing I can do.”

I know where this cynicism comes from, and I would not presume to tell you it’s misplaced.  The system is so screwed up, if you think it’s not worth participating in, then give yourself credit for being alert.  But not for being smart.How smart is it to throw away power? How smart is it to throw away the most magnificent political legacy any people have ever received? It is our birthright; we are the heirs; we get it just for being born here. …

You have more political power than 99 percent of all the people who have ever lived on this planet.  You can not only vote, you can register other people to vote, round up your friends, get out and do political education, talk to people, laugh with people, call the radio, write the paper, write your elected representative, use your email list, put up signs, march, volunteer and raise hell.  All your life, no matter what else you do- butcher, baker, beggarman thief; doctor, lawyer, Indian chief- you have another job, another responsibility- you are a citizen.  It is an obligation that requires attention and effort.  And on top of that, you should make it a hell of a lot of fun. “

When you look at the ridiculously low turn out in a closed primary, even for the Democrats who had four potential gubernatorial candidates to choose from, to challenge Gov. Corbett in the fall, it’s tragic.  We have very few responsibilities as citizens.  Voting is one of them.   Talking to people from both sides of the aisle at the polls yesterday, the constant refrain was about the disappointing turn out, and what we could do to get citizens to become voters.  Everyone joked about revoking someone’s complaining license the moment you find out they didn’t bother to vote, but we all know how difficult this would be to enforce.

My favorite calls to make to voters are Get Out The Vote calls.  As a mom, I know how you can get busy and putting the voting errand on your list can seem like a chore rather than a privilege.  I don’t care what party you belong to- Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Green, or the “I like to Party” Party- it does not matter.  What does matter is participating in the process.  Not participating is giving up without a fight, and that’s not a lesson I want my kids to learn.

I understand having a disgust with the system.  It was the biggest issue I wrestled with when deciding to run for office.  For example, a voter who spoke to both democrat and republican tables yesterday in Kennett Square, complaining about campaign finance, was exactly right.  The money spent on flyers, direct mail, signs, etc. could be much better used to help our schools, fix our streets – you name a way it could be better spent, and I will agree with you 100%.  However, in order to spend less money and less time raising money in politics, we have to have an engaged electorate that does not need to be cajoled into going to the polls every time an election of any size occurs.  Outside of offering chotchkes, a piece of candy, or an “I Voted” sticker at party tables outside a polling place, voting does not offer a Happy Meal prize.  You have to do it because it’s an expression of your opinion and will as a citizen, and if not, you are giving up your power and voice willingly.

I always have made it a point to bring my kids with me, so they have a chance to see democracy in action, and to help them develop the habit of voting early on.  It’s also a great time to meet neighbors, talk about what’s going on in the community, and to meet the community organizers.  The folks who set up tables for the parties, distribute candidate information, and try to make sure you are an informed voter, are also the people who will have the greatest effect on your life, whether you know it or not.  These are the people who help find candidates for office in the first place.  If you are disappointed with the folks who decide to become candidates, the place to start is to talk to your local political committee people, and make a difference there.  To be honest, they are also some of the brightest, passionate, engaging and fun people I know, and I urge you to go to just one meeting of any flavor, even a cause- based meeting for something you care about.  This is where making a difference really starts.

What I love most about running for office is getting to know my community so much better than ever before.  In the process, I am asking them to have faith and trust that I can represent their interests in Harrisburg and make a difference in their lives.  It’s a big ask, especially when people are generally disgusted with the petty arguments reported in the news every day.

I think we’ve seen in the national and local debate over gay marriage, that political involvement and voice does make a difference.  We have moved the debate on equal rights for the LGBT community forward with greater speed than many ever predicted, and probably much faster than many are comfortable with.  What does matter is that if you are willing to take a stand and make your voice heard, we can move mountains, and sometimes much faster than we ever thought possible.

If you don’t participate, don’t expect the system to get better by magic on its own.  People in power and seeking to make a difference listen to those who speak up and get involved.  They care enough to make their voice heard.  They are the squeaky wheel that will get the attention.  The silent are not doing anything to be counted, and as a result, are left to deal with the consequences of their own inaction.

I would love to hear why you vote, or decide not to.  How could we make the process of voting better?  This is less of a question about convenience, than it is about making sure people are informed voters.  We could let people vote by text, for example, but making it as convenient as voting for American Idol would not really help people become more informed and intelligent voters.  All we would get then is a visceral popularity contest, and I personally fear for a government made up of people who spend most of their time trying to make it on Gawker or Buzzfeed.

Let’s have an open discussion- we will be setting up some community forums on Google Plus within the next week or so, and publicize them here, on Facebook and over at   Instead of trying to pretend these issues don’t exist, it’s time to tackle them head on.

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Bosom Buddies

Bosum Buddies Moms tend to put themselves last on the list of things that need to be taken care of and maintained.  Too many women put off regular health screenings as a result, but that can put you at even greater risk for more serious problems.  For example, if breast cancers are caught early, they have a 100% five year survival rate but if they start to grow and metastasize, the amount of treatment required and outcomes begin to change.  It becomes important for women to know what risk pool they are in for breast cancer and when they should start screening, and whether your doctor recommends yearly or bi-yearly screening.

Every year, I get together with a great group of women, and we get mammograms in the morning, followed by lunch and a bit of a celebration.  We’ve called this group a variety of things, including “Mimosas and Mammograms” for the year we had mimosas while waiting for our turn; “Thanks for the Mammorys”, and other silly puns, but Bosom Buddies has stuck.  (Those of us on ‘every other year’ screenings just come along for the fun, without the testing.)

The group started a few years ago when my OB GYN and I went and got our mammograms done together.  It then expanded with a group of OB-GYN physicians I know: Dr. Arlene Smalls, Dr. Estelle Whitney, Dr. Maria Soler, Dr. Lisa Phillips and myself, and grows a little bit each year.

The best part of this whole idea is that it gets us all to take care of a task no one really looks forward to, and you also have a great group of friends there to make the process more of a fun event- So much so, I barely remember the mammogram part- just how much fun we had getting together.  Plus, on the off chance anyone gets less than a clean bill of health, having your friends there for support is incredibly important and reassuring.

This year, on May 17th, at the Breast Center at Christiana Hospital, we’ll be continuing this tradition, and I invite you all to join us.  Call and make your appointment Saturday morning with the Breast Center at (302) 623-4200, and drop me an email at and let me know you’d like to join in.  Afterwards, Dr. Arlene Smalls has arranged for us to go out and have lunch at Deerpark Tavern, which will be a lot of fun as well.  We just need to know if you are coming so we have enough tables reserved for lunch!

Even if you don’t live in the area, consider starting your own group with your friends.  Call a local mammogram provider, and see if they will allow “block scheduling” for your group.  Send out invitations, and have folks schedule their appointment.

On the day, seeing all your friends in the waiting room and catching up makes any wait go by quickly.  Afterwards, go out to brunch or lunch at a nearby restaurant, and you can even celebrate a birthday or two- I know we usually have a few to celebrate as well.  I promise this will make the process of getting your annual mammogram a whole lot more enjoyable, and will even make it something to look forward to, instead of dread.

I’ll post pictures here and on Facebook of the Bosom Buddies get together this year, and let me know if you start your own group.  I love to see more women find a way to take care of themselves while taking care of their community at the same time- and this is a great way to get started.


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What Do We Want From Government?

photo 3Before I decided to run for office, I was pretty content sitting on the sidelines, complaining about the various decisions made by governmental officials at every level.  Politics was a sport, and I viewed it mostly from the cheap seats, although when the elections came around, I volunteered with our local democratic committee, making phone calls, doing some canvassing, and working as a poll watcher on election day. I’ve been sympathetic to friends complaining about our taxes, and what they were being used for; worrying that the money often seemed wasted or used on projects that seemed to have little direct value.  But I also know that many functions of Government, whether it’s supporting first responders, emergency management, taking care of road maintenance, providing assistance to the poor, and more- are just not as efficiently done without governmental organizations there to coordinate a response. For example, Kennett Township  has done an exemplary job during the ice storm this year keeping citizens apprised of road closures, emergency shelters,  progress made on restoration of power, and advice on when to shut off water supplies.  They continue to use email to keep folks informed of upcoming community meetings and issues before the township in a non-partisan way.  It is such an improvement in communication, I think many other townships should take this as an example of how to keep folks informed and help them see their tax dollars at work.  This sort of communication is hard to do in a crisis, but that’s exactly when you need it, especially in our area when we don’t get that much attention from the major media outlets located in Philadelphia and Lancaster. When folks are disaffected with Thompson Road, Kennett SquareGovernment, it’s often because we take for granted what it provides in our everyday lives.  For example, my opponent in the PA House of Representatives race, Steve Barrar , was the only State Representative in Delaware County to vote against the Transportation Bill that helps provide money to repair roads and bridges. We had two bridges closed this week in the Kennett area- one on Thompson road just in front of the Golf Better CenterDSC_0047 – which has got to be devastating for this business just as Golf Season really gets underway. DSC_0072 You can even see the depression of the roadway and a hole through the bridge into the small creek below. The Burnt Mill Bridge closure will be redirecting school busses and increasing commute times, even before the flooding that has occurred this week.  This will also force more traffic over other smaller bridges, like the Spring Mill Bridge, making it more susceptible to damage as well. The bridge over the Brandywine Creek in Pocopson- a popular “back way” up into West Chester, has such a rough surface, it looks more like a test track for four wheel drive vehicles, and has about a 50/50 split between road surface and pot holes.  I called our current State Representative, Chris Ross’s office, and they said that the whole bridge would need to be taken down to the deck and resurfaced in order to be repaired, but in the meantime, this is causing plenty of traffic delays for anyone heading to and from West Chester. Even conservative US Senator Pat Toomey has said that funding road and bridge repair is an essential government function, and Pennsylvania has the highest number of structurally deficient bridges- 23% – in the Nation.  Plus, anyone who lives locally knows we have bridges of all shapes and sizes just about everywhere- many which have not fared well in recent winters and severe flooding. We are all inconvenienced when roads are closed, detours put in place, and traffic on just a few roads becomes almost impossible. We all know you can’t simply privatize infrastructure repair, and that we all benefit from having functioning roads and bridges. We clearly need better representation in Harrisburg, and to have someone who is willing to support funding for much needed infrastructure repairs.  It’s times like these that I simply don’t understand what my opponent was thinking when he made that vote, against the clear interests of his constituents.  It certainly helps me to know that I am doing the right thing running for office, and that I can, and will, do better.

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